Managing Anxiety When You’re a People-Pleaser and Perfectionist

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managing anxiety when you're a people-pleaser and perfectionist

For years, I was a people-pleaser, perfectionist, and never felt good enough. I focused on making others happy, avoiding failure and criticism, and constantly tried to prove my worth. I was also riddled with anxiety. Perhaps you can relate. In this article, we’ll explore the connection between anxiety, people-pleasing, and perfectionism. And I’ll offer some […]

Learning to Love Yourself

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Learning to Love Yourself

  How do you love yourself? When I ask people how they practice self-love, I get a lot of blank stares and I don’t knows. It’s as if I suggested they climb Mount Everest this weekend. Self-love can feel like an impossible task, but it’s actually quite simple. Not necessarily easy – but simple.   […]

Choose Yourself: You Matter

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Choose Yourself Because You Matter

  Do you back down from your boundaries and allow others to mistreat you? Do you ignore your needs so you can satisfy someone else’s needs? Do you ignore or minimize your feelings? Do you skip self-care because you’re busy taking care of everyone else and think you can do without? In other words, do […]

Increase Happiness with 6 Positive Psychology Hacks

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Increase happiness with positive psychology

  Increase happiness Are you feeling discouraged about your health, your job, or the political climate in our country? Are you worried about a loved one who is struggling? Do you feel stuck in a toxic or unfulfilling relationship? Are you lonely or wondering if you’ll ever find the one? You’re certainly not alone in […]

17 Ways to Validate Yourself

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Ways to validate yourself

Everyone needs validation—to feel accepted and understood. However, we can’t always get validation for others. Therefore, it’s important to know how to validate yourself.      It feels good to be praised, to have your feelings affirmed, to be told you did a good job, and to be appreciated. It’s normal to want validation from […]

34 Affirmations for Perfectionism

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Affirmations can help change perfectionist thinking

  What is perfectionism? Perfectionism – the relentless pursuit of being flawless in an effort to prove our worth and avoid criticism — adds unnecessary stress and pressure to our already demanding lives. When we strive for perfection rather than excellence, we’re never satisfied. We always feel deficient because we’re comparing ourselves to an impossible […]

13 Signs You Grew Up in an Enmeshed Family

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13 Signs You Grew Up in an Enmeshed Family

Enmeshment is a dysfunctional family dynamic characterized by a lack of boundaries and emotional immaturity. Enmeshment prevents children from emotionally separating.     Being close to your family is usually a good thing, but it’s possible to be too close. Enmeshment describes family relationships that lack boundaries such that roles and expectations are confused, parents […]

5 Simple Ways to Practice Self-Compassion

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5 Simple Ways to Practice Self Compassion

  Are you self-critical? It’s easy to fall into a pattern of self-criticism. Often, we don’t even realize that we’re speaking to ourselves with harsh criticisms that we’d never use towards others.   Self-criticism becomes hardwired into your brain Self-criticism is like a bad habit – the more we do it, the more it gets […]