Do you have unrealistically high expectations? Do you expect perfection from yourself and others? Are you frequently disappointed that things don’t go as planned? Are you exceptionally hard on yourself? Do you feel like no matter what you do, it’s never good enough? These are all signs of that perfectionism. Perfectionists set impossibly high standards …
For years, I was a people-pleaser, perfectionist, and never felt good enough. I focused on making others happy, avoiding failure and criticism, and constantly tried to prove my worth. I was also riddled with anxiety. Perhaps you can relate. In this article, we’ll explore the connection between anxiety, people-pleasing, and perfectionism. And I’ll offer some …
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Are you an all-or-nothing thinker? Perhaps you see yourself as a success or a failure, attractive or disgusting, smart or stupid. And you see others as with you or against you, right or wrong, thoughtful or selfish. Seeing things as absolutes, black or white with no shades of gray in between, can leave you feeling …
Self-Care is Always Important Self-care includes all the things we do to maintain or improve our wellbeing. We all know how important basic self-care activities such as adequate sleep, exercise, healthy eating, hobbies, and spending time with friends are. If we don’t prioritize self-care, we feel lousy. Our health suffers. We get sick. We’re irritable, …
Are you quick to blame yourself – even for things you didn’t do or couldn’t control? When things go wrong, is your immediate response “it’s all my fault” or “I shouldn’t have done that”? For many of us, self-blame and criticism are insidious. We’re unrelenting with our demands and expectations and we’re our own worst …
What is overthinking? Do you spend countless hours rehashing mistakes you made? Do you worry about what others think of you? Do you struggle to make decisions — and get caught up in excessive researching in an effort to make the right decision? This is overthinking — a form of uncontrollable worry or rumination. It …
Perfectionists have a hard time prioritizing self-care. In this article, learn about self-care for perfectionists and ways to reduce feeling guilty or selfish when you do things for yourself. Perfectionism makes it hard to practice to self-care. Perfectionists are more concerned with goals and accomplishments than with our own wellbeing. Sometimes, we’re so busy that …
Self-criticism and perfectionism go hand-in-hand. In this post, you’ll learn about the connection between self-criticism and perfectionism and how to start transforming self-criticism into self-acceptance. Pressure to be perfect So many of us feel intense pressures to achieve more, do more, and be more. We live in a technology-driven society that never stops. We’re constantly …
People often miss the signs of problematic perfectionism because they think it’s about being perfect. In this article, you’ll learn about six hidden signs of perfectionism that might surprise you. Are you a perfectionist? The answer might not be as obvious as you think. When we think of perfectionists, we tend to think of people …
Whether you’re healing from a traumatic event, coping with another depressive episode, or trying to become a better parent, you know that progress rarely happens in a straight line. Intentional growth and healing are the results of hard work – often over an extended period of time. Positive changes don’t “just happen” and time alone …
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