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11 Characteristics of Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families

Growing up in a dysfunctional family has a lasting impact on us. Many adult children of dysfunctional families underestimate the effects of being raised in a dysfunctional family. Perhaps it’s wishful thinking. Perhaps it’s denial. More likely it’s shame and simply not knowing that adult children of dysfunctional families, as a group, tend to struggle …

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3 Pillars of Codependency Recovery

Codependency is a complex set of traits and interpersonal dynamics. Recovery can feel overwhelming—especially in the beginning. To help you get started, I’ll describe three pillars of the framework I developed for codependency recovery and offer some reflective questions to aid you in changing your codependent thoughts and behaviors. The three pillars of codependency recovery …

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Understanding Family Enmeshment

Most people want to have close family relationships, if possible. However, family bonds can become too close, lacking boundaries and inhibiting individual identity development. This is a phenomenon known as family enmeshment—a dysfunctional dynamic that occurs when there is there isn’t enough emotional separation among family members. In this article, we’ll discuss: Definition of Enmeshment Enmeshment …

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Setting boundaries can be challenging, especially when dealing with friends and family members who tend to dominate conversations. In this blog post, we’ll explore effective strategies for establishing and enforcing clear and polite boundaries with people who talk too much. People “over-talk” for all sorts of reasons, including anxiety, selfishness, or missed social cues. No matter the …

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How to Develop Self-Worth after Childhood Trauma

Do you find it difficult to feel good about yourself? Do you compare yourself to others and feel defective, inferior, or inadequate? When you don’t have a strong sense of self-worth, it can be hard to set boundaries, prioritize self-care, ask for a raise, or have healthy, satisfying relationships with others. In this article, you’ll …

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Guilt-Free Boundaries

Many of us avoid setting boundaries because we feel guilty when we set a limit or ask for something. Feeling guilty is understandable, but often not warranted. The tips in this article can help you set boundaries without guilt. Boundaries are important for several reasons. They create healthy relationships and clear expectations. Boundaries protect us …

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If you struggle with codependency, wonder if you’re codependent, or just have questions about codependency, this post will give you an overview of codependency: What is codependency? What causes codependency? How to start recovering from codependency. What is codependency? Codependency is a focus on other people’s problems, feelings, needs, and wants while minimizing or ignoring your …

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What’s the connection between codependency and boundaries? Below you’ll find a short video that I made discussing the link between codependency and boundaries, some bullet points to reinforce the main ideas, and some additional resources to aid in your understanding and support you in learning to set boundaries. Boundaries For this discussion, it’s important to …

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Trying to Please Everyone

People-pleasing is frustrating and exhausting. And it’s impossible! So, learn how to stop indiscriminately people-pleasing and put your effort into relationships that matter. This post contains affiliate links, which means we may make a small commission on purchases made through these links. Trying to please everyone is tiring. It’s also a waste of time! When …

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Experiencing emotional abandonment in childhood can make us feel anxious, distrustful, ashamed, and inadequate – and these feelings often follow us into adulthood and make it difficult for us to form healthy, trusting relationships. In this article, you’ll learn how to begin healing the psychological effects of abandonment.  What is emotional abandonment? Emotional abandonment means …

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