In codependent relationships, you can lose your individual identity. This occurs when the other person or the relationship defines who you are. Your focus shifts entirely to the other person, sidelining your own needs while prioritizing theirs. Your primary goal becomes ensuring their happiness, sometimes at the cost of our own emotions or sense of self. You begin […]
If you identify as an adult child of a dysfunctional, toxic, or emotionally immature parent, you may have noticed a relentless inner pressure to do everything just right. For some adult children, perfectionism is a survival strategy learned in childhood. When love, approval, or safety depend on performance, perfectionism becomes a way to cope, feel
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Setting boundaries doesn’t come easily or naturally to a lot of people, but you can learn to set healthy boundaries. I’m going to share ten tips that I find helpful. Boundaries are limits that we set to protect our time, energy, and physical and emotional wellbeing. Boundaries are a way to tell others what we
For years, I was a people-pleaser and perfectionist. Nothing I did ever felt good enough. I focused on making others happy, avoiding failure and criticism, and constantly trying to prove my worth. Anxiety quietly ruled my life. Perhaps you can relate. In this article, we’ll explore the connection between anxiety, people-pleasing, and perfectionism. And I’ll
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People-pleasing is frustrating and exhausting. And it’s impossible! So, learn how to stop indiscriminately people-pleasing and put your effort into relationships that matter. This post contains affiliate links, which means we may make a small commission on purchases made through these links. Trying to please everyone is tiring. It’s also a waste of time! When
It’s not mean or wrong to set boundaries. Boundaries protect us from being hurt and taken advantage of. Boundaries create healthy relationships and clear expectations. And we can learn to set boundaries without feeling guilty or like we’re being mean! Has anyone told you that it’s mean or wrong to set boundaries? Well, one of
Do you over-apologize? Over-apologizing refers to saying “I’m sorry” when you don’t need to. This could be when you haven’t done anything wrong or you’re taking responsibility for someone else’s mistake or a problem that you didn’t cause or control. Here are a few examples of over-apologizing. Why we over-apologize and why it’s a problem
Do you repeatedly get into codependent relationships? If so, use these strategies to reduce codependent behaviors and form healthier relationships. What is codependency? Codependency is a broad term and it can manifest in a variety of ways. Below are some of the most common symptoms of codependency. You don’t need to have them all to
Boundaries are hard to set, especially if you didn’t grow up with healthy boundaries. But everyone can learn to set boundaries! And these five tips can make setting boundaries easier. Why we need boundaries Do you struggle to set boundaries? If so, you’re not alone. Mental health professionals and self-help gurus put a lot of
When is the best time to start taking better care of yourself? Right now! No matter the season or day of the week, it’s time to put yourself on your to-do list and give yourself the same love and respect you give to others. Below, I share 10 summer self-care ideas, but many of them
