Being dependent on others is often portrayed negatively. Individualistic cultures stress the importance of being self-reliant. We’re told not to be too needy because it’s unattractive and burdens others. And depending on others feels vulnerable; there’s a chance that they will let us down. We all depend on others. Humans are social creatures; we crave connection, […]
Friends play an important role in our lives. A friend is a trusted confidant, someone who “gets” you like no one else, and a source of fun and solace. A true friend has your back and supports you through life’s ups and downs. But friendships, like any other relationship, aren’t always healthy. Not all friendships
Is hard for you to talk about your feelings? Or do you have trouble asking for what you need in your relationships? If so, you’re not alone! Talking about your feelings can be scary Sharing your feelings can be a daunting proposition. When you share your feelings, you allow yourself to be vulnerable. And vulnerability
If you’re in an unhappy relationship, feel stuck in a pattern of failed relationships, or can’t seem to find Mr. (or Ms.) Right, your attachment style may be the reason. We all learn about human relationships from our first relationships – those with our parents or primary caregivers. Understanding your attachment style can help you
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Don’t let other people’s drama become your problem! Instead, learn to avoid drama, set boundaries, and take care of your own needs. We all know a person or two who’s overly dramatic. It could be your mother, cousin, coworker, or neighbor. Spending time with people who are always complaining, having crises, and needing your attention
What is healthy communication? Sometimes it helps to identify what isn’t healthy communication. And this post will focus on justifying, arguing, defending yourself, and over-explaining — why they’re ineffective and unhealthy aspects of communication and how we can avoid them. JADE Are you familiar with the acronym JADE? It’s a reminder to not justify, argue,
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What are boundaries? Why do we need them? And how do we set them? Find out in this article. What are boundaries? A boundary is an imaginary line that separates me from you. It separates your physical space, your feelings, needs, and responsibilities from others. Your boundaries also tell other people how they can treat
People-pleasing is a losing battle. When you focus on self-love and self-compassion rather than trying to get others to love you, you build your self-esteem and break codependent patterns so you can form healthier, happier relationships—with yourself and others. Loving yourself can be one of the hardest, yet most important things you’ll ever do. What
Codependency is often misunderstood. It’s not just a label to slap on the spouse of every alcoholic. It encompasses a wide range of behavior and thought patterns that cause people distress to varying degrees. I hope this article will help clear up some of the misconceptions about codependency and help you to understand codependency better.
Are you self-critical? Do you expect a lot of yourself—and then berate yourself when you make a mistake? This happens to many of us, but it’s not helpful. Beating yourself up doesn’t actually push you to do better; it usually makes things harder. When you’re caught in self-criticism, it’s tough to grow or feel motivated
