Codependency and anxiety go hand in hand. Codependents tend to worry and take on other people’s feelings and problems. This creates high levels of stress and anxiety that I refer to as “anxious codependency”. In this article you’ll learn about the connection between codependency and anxiety and how to reduce anxiety and manage codependent tendencies …
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Are you helping or enabling? Have you ever wondered what the difference is? In this article, you’ll learn to stop enabling, end codependent patterns, and calm your anxiety and worry about your loved one. What is enabling? Enabling is doing something for someone that they can reasonably do for themselves. Originally, enabling referred specifically to …
Detaching with love helps codependents and enablers. When we detach with love, we stop worrying and interfering and let others take responsibility for themselves. What is detaching with love? Detaching (or detaching with love) is a core component of codependency recovery. If you’re often worried about a loved one, disappointed or upset by their choices, …
Healthy caregiving vs. codependent caretaking It’s natural to express love by taking care of others, especially when you see a loved one struggling or hurting. However, the difference between codependency and caring isn’t clear. Certainly, not all caregiving is bad or unhealthy. When trying to determine if our caretaking is based on codependency, it’s useful …
Don’t let other people’s drama become your problem! Instead, learn to avoid drama, set boundaries, and take care of your own needs. We all know a person or two who’s overly dramatic. Perhaps it’s your mother or cousin, your coworker, or your neighbor. It’s draining to spend time with people who exude negative …
What is healthy communication? Sometimes it helps to identify what isn’t healthy communication. And this post will focus on justifying, arguing, defending yourself, and over-explaining — why they’re ineffective and unhealthy aspects of communication and how we can avoid them. JADE Are you familiar with the acronym JADE? It’s a reminder to not justify, argue, …
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This article discusses ways to set boundaries with “toxic” people*. This includes identifying your needs, communicating effectively, recognizing your options, detaching with love, releasing guilt, and limiting contact. It isn’t easy to set boundaries with toxic people! But we can all learn to set boundaries with toxic people — and when we do, it’s empowering. …