Are you trying to help or change someone who doesn’t want to change? Watching a friend or family member struggling with a problem or making “bad” decisions is hard. You naturally want to help. You want to make your friends’ and family’s lives easier and more joyful. You want to fix their problems and relieve […]
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Codependency and anxiety go hand in hand. Codependents tend to worry and take on other people’s feelings and problems. This creates high levels of stress and anxiety that I refer to as “anxious codependency.” In this article, you’ll learn about the connection between codependency and anxiety and how to reduce anxiety and manage codependent tendencies
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Are you helping or enabling? Have you ever wondered what the difference is? In this article, you’ll learn to stop enabling, end codependent patterns, and calm your anxiety and worry about your loved one. What is enabling? Enabling is doing something for someone that they can reasonably do for themselves. Originally, enabling referred specifically to
Detaching with love helps codependents and enablers. When we detach with love, we stop worrying and interfering and let others take responsibility for themselves. What is detaching with love? Detaching (or detaching with love) is a core component of codependency recovery. If you’re often worried about a loved one, disappointed or upset by their choices,
Healthy caregiving vs. codependent caretaking It’s natural to express love by taking care of others, especially when you see a loved one struggling or hurting. However, the difference between codependency and caring isn’t clear. Certainly, not all caregiving is bad or unhealthy. When trying to determine if our caretaking is based on codependency, it’s useful
Don’t let other people’s drama become your problem! Instead, learn to avoid drama, set boundaries, and take care of your own needs. We all know a person or two who’s overly dramatic. It could be your mother, cousin, coworker, or neighbor. Spending time with people who are always complaining, having crises, and needing your attention
What is healthy communication? Sometimes it helps to identify what isn’t healthy communication. And this post will focus on justifying, arguing, defending yourself, and over-explaining — why they’re ineffective and unhealthy aspects of communication and how we can avoid them. JADE Are you familiar with the acronym JADE? It’s a reminder to not justify, argue,
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Key Points: A note about terminology: The term “toxic people” is used in this article to describe people who consistently exhibit manipulative or harmful behaviors. It is not the ideal term and I’d prefer not to label people at all. However, using this popular term allows people searching on the internet to find pertinent resources,
