What are my hobbies? What's fun?

We all like different things, so it only goes to follow that what’s fun for others isn’t necessarily fun for you. You can live more authentically when you discover what’s fun for you. Living authentically Living authentically means being true to yourself, having a strong sense of who you are, and behaving in ways that …

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Generational Effects Codependency

Codependency is most often the result of childhood trauma.  But many readers have written to me, confused because they’re codependent and had a “normal” childhood. “I don’t understand why I’m codependent. I’ve read your posts, but I didn’t grow up in a dysfunctional family. How did this happen?” “Is it possible to be codependent if …

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Books for Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families

Growing up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional home After I wrote about growing up in an alcoholic family, I got a lot of requests for additional reading suggestions. We are fortunate that there are many helpful books for Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOAs) on healing codependency, trauma, and relationship challenges. Below are some of my …

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Are you stuck in the codependency maze? Find solutions in self-help codependency recovery book.

  Are you drawn to people with serious problems, who tend to “under function”? Do you feel lonely in your relationships? Do you feel like no one listens to you or no one cares about you? Are you tired of having the same arguments over and over again? Do you feel invisible or insignificant? Do …

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two women talking happily

Setting boundaries is hard work! You may be wondering if they’re really worth the effort. How are boundaries going to make my life better? What are the benefits of setting boundaries?  I can’t promise that setting boundaries will be easy. But I want to share six benefits of setting boundaries. I hope that when you see …

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problem with people-pleasing

Learn how to stop people-pleasing and start speaking up for yourself. Codependency and people-pleasing can cause you to “lose yourself” when you try to please and appease others. Kyle is a classic people-pleaser. He’s been dating Lucy for four years and hopes to marry her. From the beginning, Lucy has been clear that she wants Kyle to attend church …

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