In codependent relationships, you can lose your individual identity. This occurs when the other person or the relationship defines who you are. Your focus shifts entirely to the other person, sidelining your own needs while prioritizing theirs. Your primary goal becomes ensuring their happiness, sometimes at the cost of our own emotions or sense of self. You begin […]
As a therapist and person with codependent traits, I know that codependency recovery can seem daunting. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or asking yourself, “How do I get started?” this article is for you! In it, I explain four steps you can take to recover from codependency and change codependent thoughts and behaviors. 4 Steps of
Free yourself from enabling and self-sacrifice and give yourself the care you need and deserve. Have you been putting yourself last? Are you so busy caring for everyone else that there’s no time and energy for yourself? If so, you’re not alone! Lots of us are stretched to the max. Perhaps you’re happy to take
An emotionally abusive or toxic relationship can make you feel trapped, small, and deficient. It can feel like an anchor weighing you down, suffocating you. People who grew up in dysfunctional, chaotic, or unsafe families, develop a set of coping skills that helped them deal with the chaos and dysfunction in their families. Although these
Codependency is a complex set of traits and interpersonal dynamics. Recovery can feel overwhelming—especially in the beginning. To help you get started, I’ll describe three pillars of the framework I developed for codependency recovery and offer some reflective questions to aid you in changing your codependent thoughts and behaviors. The three pillars of codependency recovery
If you struggle with codependency, wonder if you’re codependent, or just have questions about codependency, this post will give you an overview of codependency: What is codependency? Codependency is a focus on other people’s problems, feelings, needs, and wants while minimizing or ignoring your own. Codependents see other people as more important than themselves and prioritize
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Are your boundaries too weak or too rigid? Either can cause problems. In this article, you’ll learn the difference between weak, rigid, and healthy boundaries–and how to set better boundaries. What is a healthy boundary? Most of us are familiar with the concept of boundaries. Boundaries serve as limits, telling others how we want to
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Setting an intention to change your codependent thoughts and behaviors can help you recover from codependency. Can setting intentions help you recover from codependency? Are you trying to recover from codependency or heal from an unhealthy or toxic relationship? Perhaps you’ve noticed that you have some codependent traits, such as enabling, letting people take advantage
Are you helping or enabling? Have you ever wondered what the difference is? In this article, you’ll learn to stop enabling, end codependent patterns, and calm your anxiety and worry about your loved one. What is enabling? Enabling is doing something for someone that they can reasonably do for themselves. Originally, enabling referred specifically to
Some children don’t get much of a childhood. When children have to act like adults – taking responsibility for their siblings, parents, and running a household– there are lasting effects. What is a parentified child? A parentified child is one that has taken on some or all of their parent’s responsibilities. Out of necessity, the
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