Self-Abandonment: What It Is and How to Stop

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Self-Abandonment: What It Is and How to Stop

Do you have a hard time trusting yourself? Do you hide parts of yourself – your feelings, beliefs, and ideas – in order to fit in or please others? Do you diminish or discount your feelings because you think they don’t matter? This is self-abandonment. We abandon ourselves when we don’t value ourselves, when we […]

How to Stop Being Codependent

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How to Stop Being Codependent

Do you want to stop being codependent? It can feel like an overwhelming task and you may not know where to begin. This article will help you change specific codependent behaviors and with continued practice, you can overcome codependency and be emotionally healthier. Codependency includes unhelpful or unhealthy ways of thinking and acting. Codependents tend […]

How to Stop Enabling

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How to Stop Enabling

  Enabling is doing something for someone that they can reasonably do for themselves. Originally, enabling referred specifically to doing something for an alcoholic or addict (such as loaning him money, excusing his aggression, or driving him to work because he got a DUI) to help him avoid the consequences of his addiction. But enabling […]

Self-Care When You’re Overwhelmed

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Self-Care When You're Overwhelmed

  Feeling overwhelmed and stressed? Here’s how to stay emotionally healthy.   Are you feeling overwhelmed? Is your stress level rising? Obviously, it’s been an especially difficult year. So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out, you’re not alone!   What do you do when you’re overwhelmed and stressed? When we feel overwhelmed, many […]

Choose Yourself: You Matter

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Choose Yourself Because You Matter

  Do you back down from your boundaries and allow others to mistreat you? Do you ignore your needs so you can satisfy someone else’s needs? Do you ignore or minimize your feelings? Do you skip self-care because you’re busy taking care of everyone else and think you can do without? In other words, do […]

Is it Mean or Wrong to Set Boundaries?

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Is it mean or wrong to set boundaries?

It’s not mean or wrong to set boundaries. Boundaries protect us from being hurt and taken advantage of. Boundaries create healthy relationships and clear expectations. And we can learn to set boundaries without feeling guilt or like we’re being mean!     Has anyone told you that it’s mean or wrong to set boundaries? Well, […]

The Difference between Having Needs and Being Needy

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The Difference between Having Needs and Being Needy

Everyone has needs — for love, attention, affirmation, touch, and so forth. And some of our needs are met in relationships with others. There’s a big difference between having needs and being needy. Read more to understand the difference between having needs and being needy.     Overcoming codependency and poor boundaries requires us to […]

Codependents’ Guide to Detaching with Love

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Detaching with Love

  What is detaching with love? Detaching (or detaching with love) is a core component of codependency recovery. If you often feel worried about a loved one, disappointed or upset by their choices, or like your emotions revolve around whether they’re “doing well” or not, then detaching with love can help you. According to the […]

7 Reasons It’s Hard to End Codependent Relationships

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7 Reasons it's Hard to End Codependent Relationships

  Why is it so hard to end codependent relationships? Codependency is a hard pattern to break. Even when you’re aware of it, it’s not uncommon to repeat the same type of codependent relationships, behaviors, and thoughts.  This is in part because codependency is learned in childhood – so it’s well-practiced and feels natural. But […]