How to Stop Enabling

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How to Stop Enabling

  Enabling is doing something for someone that they can reasonably do for themselves. Originally, enabling referred specifically to doing something for an alcoholic or addict (such as loaning him money, excusing his aggression, or driving him to work because he got a DUI) to help him avoid the consequences of his addiction. But enabling […]

Codependents’ Guide to Detaching with Love

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Detaching with Love

  What is detaching with love? Detaching (or detaching with love) is a core component of codependency recovery. If you often feel worried about a loved one, disappointed or upset by their choices, or like your emotions revolve around whether they’re “doing well” or not, then detaching with love can help you. According to the […]

Should I Leave a Toxic Relationship?

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Should I leave a toxic relationship

  Deciding whether to end a relationship is a big decision. In fact, it’s one of the things I see people struggle with the most as a therapist. For a codependent, the decision to leave a toxic or addicted partner is especially hard. You’ve tried and tried, but things don’t ever seem to get better […]