What Is An Avoidant Attachment Style?

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What is an avoidant attachment?

    Approximately 25% of us have an Avoidant Attachment Style.   In my earlier post, What’s My Attachment Style and Why Does it Matter?, I explained the three primary attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) identified by psychologist Mary Ainsworth in the 1970s. Understanding your attachment style can help you create happier, healthier adult […]

What Is An Anxious Attachment Style?

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Anxious Attachment

  In my previous post, What’s My Attachment Style and Why Does It Matter?, I gave you an overview of the three primary attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) and how attachment styles become the blueprint for our adult romantic relationships. Securely attached people tend to have happier, longer lasting relationships built on trust. They […]

What’s My Attachment Style and Why Does It Matter?

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What's my attachment style?

If you’re in an unhappy relationship, feel stuck in a pattern of failed relationships, or can’t seem to find Mr. (or Ms.) Right, your attachment style may be the reason. We all learn about human relationships from our first relationships – those with our parents or primary caregivers. Understanding your attachment style can help you […]

7 Tips to Manage Difficult Feelings During the Holidays

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7 Tips to Manage Difficult Feelings During the Holidays

  The holidays are difficult for a lot of people. It could be that your holidays involve family conflicts, financial pressures, or are associated with bad memories. And even if you generally enjoy the holidays, they can be stressful because you’re extra busy, not following your normal routine, and get overtired. And this year, the […]

How to Stop Enabling

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How to Stop Enabling

  Enabling is doing something for someone that they can reasonably do for themselves. Originally, enabling referred specifically to doing something for an alcoholic or addict (such as loaning him money, excusing his aggression, or driving him to work because he got a DUI) to help him avoid the consequences of his addiction. But enabling […]

Self-Care When You’re Overwhelmed

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Self-Care When You're Overwhelmed

  Feeling overwhelmed and stressed? Here’s how to stay emotionally healthy.   Are you feeling overwhelmed? Is your stress level rising? Obviously, it’s been an especially difficult year. So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed out, you’re not alone!   What do you do when you’re overwhelmed and stressed? When we feel overwhelmed, many […]

Accepting What We Can’t Control

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Accepting What We Can’t Control

  How to cope when life doesn’t go as planned.   Life rarely goes according to plan. I used to think I could make a plan, work hard, and accomplish what I’d set out to do. I’m a planner. I like routines and consistency. I like to know what’s going to happen. I like it […]

End a Relationship without Feeling Guilty

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How to End a Relationship without Feeling Guilty

  Guilt keeps many people stuck in dysfunctional or codependent relationships because they prioritize other people’s needs and happiness above their own.   Generally, we hope or expect that relationships will last forever. We idealize close family ties, soulmates, and decades-long friendships. But sometimes this unrealistic expectation – that our relationships should last forever — […]