Gratitude doesn’t always come easy When times are tough—and you’re feeling discouraged, alone, anxious, or angry—it’s hard to be grateful. We know we’re supposed to feel grateful. It’s Thanksgiving time after all. But you may be having a hard time tapping into gratitude right now. Perhaps you’re out of work or you dread seeing your …
Are you guilty of giving unsolicited advice? Advice is usually intended to be helpful. And many of us (myself included) offer guidance and suggestions, even tell others what they should do, without being asked. Regardless of our intentions, giving advice that isn’t wanted, can be annoying, intrusive, and even manipulative. In this article, we’ll explore …
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Is hard for you to talk about your feelings? Or do you have trouble asking for what you need in your relationships? If so, you’re not alone! Talking about your feelings can be scary Sharing your feelings can be a daunting proposition. When you share your feelings, you allow yourself to be vulnerable. And vulnerability …
Note: This article is about adult children of alcoholics (commonly abbreviated as ACAs or ACOAs). However, the dynamics that are described apply to adults who grew up in an array of dysfunctional circumstances, including those with parents who were mentally ill, abusive, or addicted to other substances. Feeling out of control is scary for most …
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My new book, The Better Boundaries Workbook, will arrive in just a few weeks (November 1, 2021, in the U. S.). I’ve been working on this book for the last two years and I’m excited to share it with you. And to help you get excited, I’ve created some early-order gifts for you. Why pre-order? …
What is codependency? You may be in a codependent relationship if you “over-function” and your partner (or friend or family member) “under-functions”. In other words, you put too much focus on doing things for other people but neglect your own needs. Codependent relationships can exist between spouses, parents and children, friends, co-workers, etc. For simplicity, …
Do you know someone who refuses to take responsibility for their mistakes or wrongdoings? Or perhaps, you’re the one who struggles to admit when you’re wrong. Sometimes it’s hard to admit that we’ve done something wrong or made a mistake. And it’s challenging to deal with others who repeatedly deny responsibility and blame others. Why …
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Are you a codependent parent? Do you have an enmeshed relationship with your adult child? Codependency can be a problem in any type of relationship. However, it can be especially hard to spot in parent-child relationships. In this article, we’ll explore symptoms of a codependent parent-child relationship and ways to create a healthier relationship with …
If you’re a highly sensitive person, setting boundaries can present some extra challenges. In this article, we’ll explore why this is and I’ll share some tips for setting boundaries as a Highly Sensitive Person. What is a Highly Sensitive Peron (HSP)? Some people are naturally more sensitive than others. And with that comes advantages and …
In this article, you’ll learn about the psychology of people-pleasing: Why we do it and how to reduce people-pleasing and codependent behaviors. Do you have a strong desire to please others? When was the last time you told someone “No, I can’t help you with that” or “I have a different opinion”? It can feel …
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