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Are you self-critical? Do you expect a lot of yourself–and then berate yourself when you make a mistake? This happens to a lot of us…but it’s not helpful. Self-criticism doesn’t motivate people or help them perform better. In fact, it usually has the opposite effect. It’s hard to do better when you think so little …

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Maintain a Strong Sense of Self

Learn how to maintain a strong sense of self in relationships by living authentically, knowing yourself, avoiding people-pleasing, and building self-esteem. Losing your sense of self Do you seem to get swallowed up in relationships? Does your sense of self disappear when you’re in a relationship? This “loss of self” happens, whether you’ve been married for …

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inspiring Brene Brown Quotes

Enjoy some of the best Brene Brown quotes about shame, vulnerability, and self-acceptance. These inspiring quotes can help you gain insight, build self-esteem, and self-compassion. If you’re like me, you can’t get enough Brené Brown! I love her books, Ted Talks, and her videos on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday. And I especially love all of the inspiring …

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Resolutions for mental health

Your mental health matters. It matters a lot. Paying attention to your mental health and taking steps to stay emotionally healthy can have a big payoff. In this post, I’ll share some ways that you can safeguard your mental health. A new year means New Year’s Resolutions. The three most popular resolutions are to lose …

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Boundaries with Toxic People

Key Points: A note about terminology: The term “toxic people” is used in this article to describe people who consistently exhibit manipulative or harmful behaviors. It is not the ideal term and I’d prefer not to label people at all. However, using this popular term allows people searching on the internet to find pertinent resources, …

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Tips for Coping with the Holidays. 5 printable PDF tip sheets to help you conquer perfectionism, difficult family members, stress, overwhelm, and depression.

Introducing 5 New Holiday Tip Sheets from Psychotherapist and Codependency Expert Sharon Martin, LCSW Are you dreading the holidays because of difficult people in your life? Do you tend to get stressed, sad, or overwhelmed during December? Do you want to set a positive tone for the holiday season? Would it be helpful to keep …

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Power of Gratitude

In this article, we’ll explore different ways to practice gratitude, why it can be hard to feel grateful, and I’ll share 30 of my favorite gratitude journal prompts. Gratitude can have a positive impact on our physical and mental health, but like other healthy habits, even though we know it’s good for us, we often …

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Should I leave a troubled relationship

Deciding whether to end a relationship is a big decision. As a therapist, I often see people struggle with whether to leave dysfunctional relationships or stick it out. For someone with codependency, the decision to leave a dysfunctional or abusive partner is especially hard. Why it’s hard to end a “toxic”, dysfunctional, or abusive relationship …

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Parenting When Codependent Breaking the Cycle of Codependency

This article focuses on how to parent when you’re codependent or have experienced childhood trauma. You can break the cycle of codependency by learning to parent differently. You can use these strategies even if you’re not a parent (or your children are grown). You can apply many of these parenting strategies to yourself. Yep! It …

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What are my hobbies? What's fun?

We all like different things, so it only goes to follow that what’s fun for others isn’t necessarily fun for you. You can live more authentically when you discover what’s fun for you. Living authentically Living authentically means being true to yourself, having a strong sense of who you are, and behaving in ways that …

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