Stop trying to help what to do when your help isn't wanted don't want to change

Are you a helper, fixer, or rescuer? Are you trying to help or change someone who don’t want to change? Watching a friend or family member struggling with a problem or making “bad” decisions is hard. You naturally want to help. You want to make your friends and family’s lives easier and more joyful. You …

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Mother’s Day When You Aren’t Close to Your Mother

Mother’s Day is painful when you’re not close to your mother. For many, Mother’s Day is a stark reminder of a relationship that’s fractured, distant, or even non-existent. Strained mother-child relationships are not uncommon, yet our communities, families, and the media persist in portraying mothers as angels and mother-child relationships as unbreakable. The pressure to …

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Being dependent on others is often portrayed negatively. Individualistic cultures stress the importance of being self-reliant. We’re told not to be too needy because it’s unattractive and burdens others. And depending on others feels vulnerable; there’s a chance that they will let us down. We all depend on others. Humans are social creatures; we crave connection, …

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healing from a toxic family requires boundaries

Growing up in a dysfunctional family can cause lasting wounds. For adult children who grew up in these environments, healing can be challenging, and navigating relationships with “toxic” family members can be a constant source of pain. A key part of the healing process is setting and sticking to boundaries. Boundaries are essential for stopping …

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Managing triggers when setting boundaries with family of origin

Setting boundaries with your family can stir up old emotional wounds. Learning to manage your triggers will help you set more effective boundaries. What are Boundaries and Why Are They Important? Boundaries are the invisible lines we draw to define what’s acceptable and unacceptable behavior. They encompass how much of ourselves we share emotionally and …

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11 Characteristics of Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families

Growing up in a dysfunctional family has a lasting impact on us. Many adult children of dysfunctional families underestimate the effects of being raised in a dysfunctional family. Perhaps it’s wishful thinking. Perhaps it’s denial. More likely it’s shame and simply not knowing that adult children of dysfunctional families, as a group, tend to struggle …

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Goodbye Codependency Hello Self-Care Codependency Recovery

Free yourself from enabling and self-sacrifice and give yourself the care you need and deserve. Have you been putting yourself last? Are you so busy caring for everyone else that there’s no time and energy for yourself? If so, you’re not alone! Lots of us are stretched to the max. Perhaps you’re happy to take …

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Lost Childhood The Effects of Dysfunctional Family

This article addresses something that impacts many of us— the lasting effects of growing up in a dysfunctional family. Growing up in a dysfunctional family can be lonely, scary, and confusing. And children in dysfunctional families don’t have typical childhoods. What is a dysfunctional family? Let’s start by defining what we mean by “dysfunctional family.” …

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6 Defining Symptoms of Codependency

We use the term codependency rather loosely these days. It’s great that more people are familiar with codependency, but if it’s going to help us understand ourselves in a meaningful way, we need to be clear about what codependency is – and what it isn’t. In a nutshell, people who identify as codependent usually play …

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2024 New Year Journal Prompts

The start of the year is a natural time to reflect and plan. Use these 2024 new year journal prompts to gain clarity, set intentions, and explore your hopes and goals for the upcoming year. You’ll find prompts for introspection, gratitude, and everything in between! As 2023 winds down, it’s the perfect time to reflect …

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