If you’re wondering how to stop being controlling, you’re not alone. Many people feel compelled to manage every detail of situations and other people’s choices. For example, you might feel anxious when someone else is driving, find yourself redoing tasks that others have already completed, or feel the urge to jump in with suggestions even […]
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If you identify as an adult child of a dysfunctional, toxic, or emotionally immature parent, you may have noticed a relentless inner pressure to do everything just right. For some adult children, perfectionism is a survival strategy learned in childhood. When love, approval, or safety depend on performance, perfectionism becomes a way to cope, feel
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Choose to be present rather than perfect. In a world that often celebrates achievement and success, it’s easy to fall into the trap of perfectionism. But setting impossibly high standards and criticizing ourselves relentlessly can contribute to stress, anxiety, and other health and relationship problems that undermine our happiness, productivity, and well-being (Hewitt, Flett, &
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People who struggle with codependency, tend to struggle with perfectionism as well. To understand the connection, let’s start by taking a look at what perfectionism is and isn’t. What is perfectionism? Perfectionism isn’t striving for excellence. It’s an unrealistic and unrelenting expectation that you’ll excel at everything, always do and say the “right” thing, and
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Do you have unrealistically high expectations? Do you expect perfection from yourself and others? Are you frequently disappointed that things don’t go as planned? Are you exceptionally hard on yourself? Do you feel like no matter what you do, it’s never good enough? These are all signs of perfectionism. Perfectionists set impossibly high standards for
Do you criticize yourself constantly? Or think that everything you do is wrong—while rarely noticing what you do right? If so, targeted journaling can help you let go of self-criticism, create balance in your life, and set realistic expectations. This article provides a set of journal prompts for perfectionism and self-criticism to help you get
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For years, I was a people-pleaser and perfectionist. Nothing I did ever felt good enough. I focused on making others happy, avoiding failure and criticism, and constantly trying to prove my worth. Anxiety quietly ruled my life. Perhaps you can relate. In this article, we’ll explore the connection between anxiety, people-pleasing, and perfectionism. And I’ll
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When we’re overwhelmed or stressed, self-care is more important than ever! But it’s not always easy to find the time or energy we need to care for ourselves. So, read on for tips on practicing self-care when you’re overwhelmed. Are you feeling overwhelmed? Is your stress level rising? If so, you’re not alone! Most people
Accepting what you can’t control is hard! Life rarely goes according to plan. I used to think I could make a plan, work hard, and accomplish what I’d set out to do. I’m a planner. I like routines and consistency. I like to know what’s going to happen. I like it when my life goes
Perfectionism can create more problems than it solves. Do you have any of these perfectionist traits – overthinking, overworking, criticizing, procrastinating, or being inflexible? If so, you probably know that perfectionism can be more of a hindrance than a help. On the surface, perfectionism seems like a good quality. And in moderation, some perfectionist traits
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