Growing Up in an Alcoholic Family

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Growing up in an alcoholic family

Growing up in an alcoholic family can be lonely, scary, and confusing. Children in alcoholic or dysfunctional families don’t get a childhood. You Don’t Get a Childhood When You Grow Up in an Alcoholic Family Growing up in an alcoholic family has a different effect on different kids. Factor such as personality, internal and external […]

7 Reasons It’s Hard to End Codependent Relationships

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7 Reasons it's Hard to End Codependent Relationships

  Why is it so hard to end codependent relationships? Codependency is a hard pattern to break. Even when you’re aware of it, it’s not uncommon to repeat the same type of codependent relationships, behaviors, and thoughts.  This is in part because codependency is learned in childhood – so it’s well-practiced and feels natural. But […]

How to Reparent Yourself

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How to Reparent Yourself

  Are you self-critical and overly harsh with yourself? Or are you too permissive with yourself – not setting limits and allowing yourself to do things that are unhealthy or unsafe? Do you ignore your feelings, have trouble expressing your needs or regulating your emotions? Is it hard to treat yourself with love and compassion? […]

17 Ways to Validate Yourself

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Ways to validate yourself

Everyone needs validation—to feel accepted and understood. However, we can’t always get validation for others. Therefore, it’s important to know how to validate yourself.      It feels good to be praised, to have your feelings affirmed, to be told you did a good job, and to be appreciated. It’s normal to want validation from […]

13 Signs You Grew Up in an Enmeshed Family

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13 Signs You Grew Up in an Enmeshed Family

Enmeshment is a dysfunctional family dynamic characterized by a lack of boundaries and emotional immaturity. Enmeshment prevents children from emotionally separating.     Being close to your family is usually a good thing, but it’s possible to be too close. Enmeshment describes family relationships that lack boundaries such that roles and expectations are confused, parents […]

How Codependents Can Step Into Their Circle of Control

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How Codependents Can Step Into Their Circle of Control #codependency

Codependents often focus on other people and their problems – sometimes getting obsessed with or fixated on helping or fixing things outside of their control. Not only can this lead to self-neglect, but it’s also frustrating and largely a waste of time and energy. Instead of focusing on things that we can’t control or influence, […]

Healing the Psychological Effects of Abandonment

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Healing the psychological effects of abandonment

  Experiencing emotional abandonment in childhood can make us feel anxious, distrustful, ashamed, and inadequate – and these feelings often follow us into adulthood and make it difficult for us to form healthy, trusting relationships.   What is emotional abandonment? Emotional abandonment means that someone important, someone you are counting on, isn’t there for you […]

10 Ways to Free Yourself from Toxic Parents

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10 Ways to Free Yourself from Toxic Parents #codependency #narcissistic #ACOA #ACA #adultchildren #toxicfamily #dysfunctional #boundaries #detachment #selfcare

  In my last post, I shared 15 Signs You Have a Toxic Parent. Awareness is a great place to begin, but if you have toxic parents, what you really want to know is how to cope with their crazy-making.   How are your toxic parents impacting your life? Toxic parents can make your life […]