Dr. Sharon Martin

Sharon Martin, DSW, LCSW is a psychotherapist and author specializing in codependency recovery. For the past 25 years, she’s been helping people-pleasers, perfectionists, and adult children overcome self-doubt and shame, embrace their imperfections, and set boundaries. Dr. Martin writes the popular blog Conquering Codependency for Psychology Today and is the author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism and The Better Boundaries Workbook.

healing from a toxic family requires boundaries

Growing up in a dysfunctional family can cause lasting wounds. For adult children who grew up in these environments, healing can be challenging, and navigating relationships with “toxic” family members can be a constant source of pain. A key part of the healing process is setting and sticking to boundaries. Boundaries are essential for stopping …

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Managing triggers when setting boundaries with family of origin

Setting boundaries with your family can stir up old emotional wounds. Learning to manage your triggers will help you set more effective boundaries. What are Boundaries and Why Are They Important? Boundaries are the invisible lines we draw to define what’s acceptable and unacceptable behavior. They encompass how much of ourselves we share emotionally and …

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11 Characteristics of Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families

Growing up in a dysfunctional family has a lasting impact on us. Many adult children of dysfunctional families underestimate the effects of being raised in a dysfunctional family. Perhaps it’s wishful thinking. Perhaps it’s denial. More likely it’s shame and simply not knowing that adult children of dysfunctional families, as a group, tend to struggle …

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Goodbye Codependency Hello Self-Care Codependency Recovery

Free yourself from enabling and self-sacrifice and give yourself the care you need and deserve. Have you been putting yourself last? Are you so busy caring for everyone else that there’s no time and energy for yourself? If so, you’re not alone! Lots of us are stretched to the max. Perhaps you’re happy to take …

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Lost Childhood The Effects of Dysfunctional Family

This article addresses something that impacts many of us— the lasting effects of growing up in a dysfunctional family. Growing up in a dysfunctional family can be lonely, scary, and confusing. And children in dysfunctional families don’t have typical childhoods. What is a dysfunctional family? Let’s start by defining what we mean by “dysfunctional family.” …

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6 Defining Symptoms of Codependency

We use the term codependency rather loosely these days. It’s great that more people are familiar with codependency, but if it’s going to help us understand ourselves in a meaningful way, we need to be clear about what codependency is – and what it isn’t. In a nutshell, people who identify as codependent usually play …

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2024 New Year Journal Prompts

The start of the year is a natural time to reflect and plan. Use these 2024 new year journal prompts to gain clarity, set intentions, and explore your hopes and goals for the upcoming year. You’ll find prompts for introspection, gratitude, and everything in between! As 2023 winds down, it’s the perfect time to reflect …

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stressful holiday traditions

The holidays are a time for yummy treats, joyful reunions, festive decorations, and…stress? Yep, even the most festive among us can find ourselves tangled in a web of expectations, obligations, and traditions that leave us feeling more drained than jolly. This year, let’s let go of stressful holiday traditions by setting boundaries that protect our …

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How to Create Interdependent Relationships

What is an interdependent relationship? Humans are social beings; we’ve always craved connection and depended on each other for our survival. Relying on others for emotional and practical support is a natural part of the human experience. This is called interdependency. In an interdependent relationship, people rely on each other for support and love—and also …

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Setting boundaries in enmeshed relationships

Key points about boundaries and enmeshed relationships: What is an enmeshed relationship? An enmeshed relationship lacks boundaries. People in enmeshed relationships are so close that they lose their individual identities. Enmeshed relationships can be between parents and children, siblings, romantic partners, or friends. If you’re in an enmeshed relationship, you may: People in enmeshed relationships …

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